The student body at Shield of Faith Homeschool is growing: we will soon be adding a new student!
At this writing, I am almost 6 months pregnant with our third child, Baby Sister. Since this is my second time homeschooling through a pregnancy, I thought I would share a few tips and insights on how we have made it work.
While some women seem to love pregnancy and go on and on about how great they felt... that's not me!
For me "morning sickness" is more like "24 hours a day sickness," and I suffer from symphysis pubis dysfunction (which is just long, fancy words for "it hurts to move...a lot"). I swell up like a balloon, I get terrible migraines, I always feel so tired, and I am at risk of developing both gestational diabetes and pre-ecclampsia (I had both with Little Brother).
I am thankful my body has no real problem with making and carrying healthy babies, but it definitely does not like me very much along the way.
So how does homeschooling happen when mommy is expecting?
Independent Learning
So if you followed us last school year, you know we used a very teacher-heavy unit study curriculum. It involved lots of time spent reading aloud, learning together, and doing many really neat hands on projects. It was absolutely awesome, and I am SO glad we took last year to do that!
And I am equally glad that even before this pregnancy began I had already made the decision to switch gears and use a student-led program this year for 4th grade so Big Brother could take more control of his own school day.
It has been such a blessing! He has his own dedicated work space (we call it his office) where he does the majority of his work. Each morning he sets his daily goals for each subject and writes them on a goal card. The goal card is posted in front of him in his office, and he marks them off as they are completed.
Many mornings he gets up and gets started before I am even up and moving around. He has realized that the faster he gets started on his goals the sooner they are met and he can move on with his day (reading, doing LEGO projects, watching documentaries, playtime with Little Brother, etc.).
This system works for Big Brother now because he is 9 and has matured so much in the past 3-4 years.
It played out a little differently when I was pregnant with Little Brother, although I still used independent learning to help us get through it.
At that time, Big Brother was 5/6 years old and still needed me to be involved a lot in his school work. But it was at that time that I discovered the workbox system, and it literally saved my sanity and our school that year! I would put everything he needed to accomplish that day into separate boxes, and he would work through them one at a time until he was done. I often put independent activities in his workboxes (art or coloring, alphabet and number puzzles, educational DVDs to watch, etc.) to give myself some much needed breaks and help him get used to working a little on his own.
As for Little Brother, I have allowed him a lot of independence, too. He is 3 1/2 so I am stepping back and not pushing too many "schoolish" activities on him right now. He starts each day immediately grabbing his cowboy hat, boots, and bandana and declaring himself to be The Lone Ranger. He has pretty much free reign of the living room where he pretends, colors, plays with LEGOs and toy trains, and knows how to work the DVD player on his own if he wants to watch The Lone Ranger or Thomas the Train or VeggieTales or whatever while he plays.
Most days I try to find a time when I feel well enough to engage Little Brother in reading a book with me, counting, recognizing letters, working on simple chores together etc. But I have found what he really needs most from me right now is lots of hugs and reassurance that Mommy is going to be OK. He has sensed a lot of the stress and the changes, and I want him to be able to just relax and play as much as possible.
Accept Help
This is SO hard for us moms! We want to be superwomen and prove we can do it all on our own. But I think sometimes the Lord allows these rough times in our lives to teach us that we have to lean on Him and the people He places in our lives.
Mornings are especially hard for me. On days my husband is able to be home, he let's me stay in bed, gets the boys started with their day, and brings me breakfast. He has taken a few extra weekdays off here and there throughout my pregnancy just so he could be here to lighten my load. And because he graduated from a school that used the same curriculum Big Brother has this year, he is really comfortable with helping him with his school work if he needs it.
Most mornings my husband is at work, and Big Brother has been so faithful to bring me a simple breakfast in bed almost every morning and makes sure Little Brother gets his breakfast, too. He feels so grown up and useful, and it really blesses me to not have to immediately get up and rush around in the morning.
While I try to do some very light house work on days I don't feel like a total mess (those days are few and far between, no joke), Big Brother and my husband pretty well do most of what house work gets done. And I am not letting myself stress about it. No, our house doesn't look like it belongs on a magazine cover by any stretch of the imagination (honestly, it never has looked that good!), but some things just are not important right now.
This is also a point at which being a second generation homeschooler with a mom who knows the ropes and lives just ten minutes down the road definitely has its perks! Two mornings a week she takes Big Brother to her house where she works with him on Spelling, Kentucky History, and United States History. He gets some great hands on, one on one focused learning time, and I don't have to feel stressed to put it all together. She makes him lunch while he's there, and that helps a lot, too. She is also available to take him to his piano lessons or drive us to appointments as needed.
While you may not have the luxury of delegating certain subjects to a veteran homeschool grandma, you might find it helpful to reach out to another homeschool mom nearby for help. Perhaps a homeschooled teen in your area would like to get some experience as a mother's helper or tutor. Don't feel the least bit guilty for taking advantage of whatever help is available to you right now!
Priorities
This is where it is important to have your priorities straight.
My goal right now is mainly survival. If we all make it through the day alive, that is worth calling an accomplishment.
If I am not able to do every neat project or spend hours planning out detailed lessons or cooking fancy meals: so be it. At least my children are learning to take some responsibility for themselves. That's got to count for something.
Pregnancy is a time in a woman's life where she really has to make herself a priority. Taking care of myself is taking care of my baby.
It Will Pass
Pregnancy, no matter how long and rough it may be while it lasts, never lasts forever.
Baby Sister will make her arrival one way or another, and this relatively short chapter of our lives will be over.
The postpartum period will bring its own challenges, and then our family will gradually settle into a new "normal."
So that is my goal right now: to make it through this pregnancy with my family and I in one piece and then to enjoy the sweet, cuddly little reward at the end!
At this writing, I am almost 6 months pregnant with our third child, Baby Sister. Since this is my second time homeschooling through a pregnancy, I thought I would share a few tips and insights on how we have made it work.
While some women seem to love pregnancy and go on and on about how great they felt... that's not me!
For me "morning sickness" is more like "24 hours a day sickness," and I suffer from symphysis pubis dysfunction (which is just long, fancy words for "it hurts to move...a lot"). I swell up like a balloon, I get terrible migraines, I always feel so tired, and I am at risk of developing both gestational diabetes and pre-ecclampsia (I had both with Little Brother).
I am thankful my body has no real problem with making and carrying healthy babies, but it definitely does not like me very much along the way.
So how does homeschooling happen when mommy is expecting?
Independent Learning
So if you followed us last school year, you know we used a very teacher-heavy unit study curriculum. It involved lots of time spent reading aloud, learning together, and doing many really neat hands on projects. It was absolutely awesome, and I am SO glad we took last year to do that!
And I am equally glad that even before this pregnancy began I had already made the decision to switch gears and use a student-led program this year for 4th grade so Big Brother could take more control of his own school day.
It has been such a blessing! He has his own dedicated work space (we call it his office) where he does the majority of his work. Each morning he sets his daily goals for each subject and writes them on a goal card. The goal card is posted in front of him in his office, and he marks them off as they are completed.
Many mornings he gets up and gets started before I am even up and moving around. He has realized that the faster he gets started on his goals the sooner they are met and he can move on with his day (reading, doing LEGO projects, watching documentaries, playtime with Little Brother, etc.).
This system works for Big Brother now because he is 9 and has matured so much in the past 3-4 years.
It played out a little differently when I was pregnant with Little Brother, although I still used independent learning to help us get through it.
At that time, Big Brother was 5/6 years old and still needed me to be involved a lot in his school work. But it was at that time that I discovered the workbox system, and it literally saved my sanity and our school that year! I would put everything he needed to accomplish that day into separate boxes, and he would work through them one at a time until he was done. I often put independent activities in his workboxes (art or coloring, alphabet and number puzzles, educational DVDs to watch, etc.) to give myself some much needed breaks and help him get used to working a little on his own.
As for Little Brother, I have allowed him a lot of independence, too. He is 3 1/2 so I am stepping back and not pushing too many "schoolish" activities on him right now. He starts each day immediately grabbing his cowboy hat, boots, and bandana and declaring himself to be The Lone Ranger. He has pretty much free reign of the living room where he pretends, colors, plays with LEGOs and toy trains, and knows how to work the DVD player on his own if he wants to watch The Lone Ranger or Thomas the Train or VeggieTales or whatever while he plays.
Most days I try to find a time when I feel well enough to engage Little Brother in reading a book with me, counting, recognizing letters, working on simple chores together etc. But I have found what he really needs most from me right now is lots of hugs and reassurance that Mommy is going to be OK. He has sensed a lot of the stress and the changes, and I want him to be able to just relax and play as much as possible.
Accept Help
This is SO hard for us moms! We want to be superwomen and prove we can do it all on our own. But I think sometimes the Lord allows these rough times in our lives to teach us that we have to lean on Him and the people He places in our lives.
Mornings are especially hard for me. On days my husband is able to be home, he let's me stay in bed, gets the boys started with their day, and brings me breakfast. He has taken a few extra weekdays off here and there throughout my pregnancy just so he could be here to lighten my load. And because he graduated from a school that used the same curriculum Big Brother has this year, he is really comfortable with helping him with his school work if he needs it.
Most mornings my husband is at work, and Big Brother has been so faithful to bring me a simple breakfast in bed almost every morning and makes sure Little Brother gets his breakfast, too. He feels so grown up and useful, and it really blesses me to not have to immediately get up and rush around in the morning.
While I try to do some very light house work on days I don't feel like a total mess (those days are few and far between, no joke), Big Brother and my husband pretty well do most of what house work gets done. And I am not letting myself stress about it. No, our house doesn't look like it belongs on a magazine cover by any stretch of the imagination (honestly, it never has looked that good!), but some things just are not important right now.
This is also a point at which being a second generation homeschooler with a mom who knows the ropes and lives just ten minutes down the road definitely has its perks! Two mornings a week she takes Big Brother to her house where she works with him on Spelling, Kentucky History, and United States History. He gets some great hands on, one on one focused learning time, and I don't have to feel stressed to put it all together. She makes him lunch while he's there, and that helps a lot, too. She is also available to take him to his piano lessons or drive us to appointments as needed.
While you may not have the luxury of delegating certain subjects to a veteran homeschool grandma, you might find it helpful to reach out to another homeschool mom nearby for help. Perhaps a homeschooled teen in your area would like to get some experience as a mother's helper or tutor. Don't feel the least bit guilty for taking advantage of whatever help is available to you right now!
Priorities
This is where it is important to have your priorities straight.
My goal right now is mainly survival. If we all make it through the day alive, that is worth calling an accomplishment.
If I am not able to do every neat project or spend hours planning out detailed lessons or cooking fancy meals: so be it. At least my children are learning to take some responsibility for themselves. That's got to count for something.
Pregnancy is a time in a woman's life where she really has to make herself a priority. Taking care of myself is taking care of my baby.
It Will Pass
Pregnancy, no matter how long and rough it may be while it lasts, never lasts forever.
Baby Sister will make her arrival one way or another, and this relatively short chapter of our lives will be over.
The postpartum period will bring its own challenges, and then our family will gradually settle into a new "normal."
So that is my goal right now: to make it through this pregnancy with my family and I in one piece and then to enjoy the sweet, cuddly little reward at the end!
